?Waiting for the chemistry? Another first date..

You could argue I've now officially made it to first date whoredom. Despite being christmas holidays I've still managed to squeeze in another first date, a second date and a random rendevous with someone i met going to a first date. Is it cos I is bored??

Perhaps.. but maybe I'm still trying to perfect what's right. I've read in other blogs, articles, that one should date as many as possible to try and find the right one.

My first date last week culminated in a kiss.. a brief encounter interrupted by a bus arriving. A small awkward moment involved him asking whether I wanted to come back to his. When a guy asks a girl this it means a few possibilities;

1) He thinks you're easy and you're up for sex
2) He really likes you and his sex drive is rampant (and number 1)
3) He thinks you're easy and you're up for sex

Rule number one for a lady is not to have sex on a first date. This means your power has dissipated.. what else in your enigma do you have to offer. I declined and bus-sed it home, but he contacted me by text to ask whether I got home safely enough. However it took two days for further contact and now its a bit.. dry to say the least. Although he expressed we should meet again there will be a gap due to other committments, so now I'm up in the air.

I've had one second date so far and about four first dates. There are 2 promises of further second dates and, well i stupidly promised one of my first dates that we should go out again but didn't respond to any further communication. So much for my honesty..

Back to the most recent date culminating in a kiss, we broke another date rule of getting drunk. Well it was all drinks and cocktails, and perhaps this was a factor in his offering at the end of the night. I wasn't so drunk due to previous drinking the night before, but as I had quite a bit maybe he thought i was loose and ready?

And my next speculation is about chemistry. Am I not making many first dates because I'm simply too fickle and after instant passion fix. This backfired after first date number one. Is chemistry something that is natural, or will grow on a tree into a blossom. This takes time.

My intentions are to explore this theory. My expectations are minimal.